I recently spoke to a close friend via telephone regarding a decision that I was trying to make concerning my friends from college: whether to rekindle the friendships or to let to them go to the Lord. God always has His way of surprising us. His Holy Spirit provided me with wisdom and a sound mind, as my portion, to make the right decision: to let to them go and away to the Lord and away from me as they do not point me to Christ in this season that I am in my life.
~”Ponder the path of thy feet, and let all thy ways be established.”~ Proverbs 4:26, KJV~
~”For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”~2 Timothy 1:7, KJV~
The reason why the friendships from college do not point me to Christ in this particular season that I am in my life is because God used them for their given purpose when I was in college: to minister who Jesus is to me then. But, now that the friendships are no more to me, they have served their purpose as seasonal friendships and not lifetime friendships. Therefore, we are not destined by the Lord to remain as friends.
In a previous blog post, I talk about how I met a friend at a job fair. She claims that this was a meeting that was ordained by God, but I disagree because she did not contact me the time during that we were apart for many years. For this reason, I do not believe that she is being truthful or honest with me about what she claims that she knows about the argument with my other two friends from college. Since she claims that she does not know anything about the argument with the other two friends, why did she mention it (This is a rhetorical question)?
This caused me to question her and her motives for wanting a friendship with me. This is why I have made the decision that I have made to not be friends with her or any of my friends from college anymore. It is done. The decision is final.
This was because of an argument that I got into with two of the other friends from college that I knew for five years. Because of the disagreement and things that both sides (mine included) said and did, I am reaping what I have sown for sinning against my friends from college.
My friend, who I spoke with from the church, told me that the friendships from college are no longer applicable to me in this season of my life because they do not point me to Jesus. They are not productive and worth my time to me and they are not productive and worth my time to the Lord because they do not glorify God nor do they point to Jesus in the present now.
My friend from the church, who gave me this perspective, showed me a new way to think about and consider the friendships that I once had that I never thought of before. I am not saying that the friendships never pointed me to Christ because they once did. But now that they chose to not contact me for this whole, entire period of five to seven years, what good do they contribute to my calling, purpose, and destiny, as a child of God (this is a rhetorical question)?
I am stronger, as a child of God. I am much wiser, as a child of God. I am also very discerning in who to pick to be my close circle of friends more so than I was when I was a student in college.
Can anyone be my friend. No. Can I accept what everyone tells me to be the truth and nothing but the truth?? Nope. Can I trust everyone to be my friend? No way.
My friends from college were not gracious to me in giving me another chance to be their friend. They did not contact me for this period of five to seven years, which gives me a reason to know that my friend that I ran into at the job fair was not being honest with me about what she knows about the argument. And I had to make peace with God about her dishonesty with me and for choosing to not be a friend to me for all of these years.
When she stated, “This meeting was set up by God,” I disagree and not only that: I believe that it was a test from the enemy to see if I would let her, as well as my other college friends, be a distraction to me and to my calling, purpose, and destiny, as a child of God.
~”I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.”~ Galatians 2:20, KJV~
~”No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgement thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness is of me, saith the Lord.”~ Isaiah 54:17, KJV~
This spiritual weapon that the enemy used to distract me from my calling shall not win me from my calling, my purpose, nor my destiny. I am a child of God and the decision that I made to not continue in the friendships that I once had stands: I shall not want. I will not give into temptation. I listen to the Holy Spirit, which is the still voice of God in me.
I pause….I stop….and I listen to His voice for direction as I still myself in His presence and no other, in the Name of Jesus Christ.
~”Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.”~ Psalm 46:10, KJV~
His voice is calm. His voice is peace. His voice is still. Therefore, I stop and listen to the Holy Spirit, which is the voice of God, for direction and decisions to make.
Thank you for reading this blog post and grace and peace to you!